|Do Fears Block Your
Succeeding is easy if nothing scares you.
If nothing makes you hesitant, shy or nervous.
When you do not act, it is probably
because of some FEAR. Fear is the inability to face someone or
something. When you cannot face an issue, it causes complexity and
For example, if you cannot easily discuss
money, you have money problems. Whenever you need to take financial
action, you freeze. You end with less money.
If you are an employer and avoid staff
problems, production statistics decline. Work becomes serious. Since no
one resolves the staff problems, the problems persist while your
Avoiding topics with your spouse is the
most common reason for marriage problems. Hiding, withholding or
suppressing your feelings and thoughts from your spouse is a giant leap
When fears control your life, L. Ron
Hubbard points out you are controlled by shadows. If you reach out and
take action despite your fears, you will discover how thin and weak the
fears really are!
To illustrate this point, Ron wrote,
"On Lake Tanganyika* the natives have a very interesting way of
catching fish. There on the equator the sun shines straight down through
the clear water. The natives take blocks of wood and string them along a
long rope. They stretch this rope between two canoes and with these
abreast begin to paddle towards the shoal** water. By the time they have
reached the shoals, schools of fish are piled and crowded into the rocks
and onto the beach. The blocks of wood on the rope make shadows which go
all the way down to the bottom of the lake and the fish, seeing the
approach of these shadows and the apparent solid bars which they form in
the water, swim fearfully away from them and so are caught." (*Lake
Tanganyika is located in east-central Africa.)(** Shoal: shallow.)
There are several ways you can blow away
the shadows that stop you from succeeding.
One effective method is role playing or
drilling. Once you identify the area you have difficulty confronting,
you pretend to confront the situation in a role-playing exercise.
Drilling allows you to discover which parts of the problem are really
problems and which are simply shadows.
For example, you need to ask your boss
for a raise. Before talking to him you practice the conversation with
your friend. You work out some details, change your approach and work
out your best possible presentation. Because you are prepared for the
meeting, you are not as nervous.
Another method of reducing fear is to
approach the problem with gradient steps. You cut the problem into small
bites. You successfully deal with the small parts and thus reach a full
For example, you need to fill out your
tax forms. You’ve done your own taxes before, but this year is more
complicated. You earned money in new ways this year and also bought a
house. Instead of trying to take on the entire task in one day, you
spend one day just working out how to report the new income. You spend
another day just figuring out how to deduct the house-buying costs.
Pretty soon, you’re down to the routine tax work you’ve done before
and finish off the job.
Simply talking about the fear can reduce
the effects of fear. After you openly discuss it with someone who
listens, the problem often feels less difficult.
For example, you are afraid of flying in
an airplane. Your spouse agrees to listen to you and you spill your
guts. You describe everything about flying that scares you. After a
while, you decide you can fly.
L. Ron Hubbard discovered that talking
and listening is a powerful form of therapy when done correctly. He
spent years developing an entire technology for one-on-one communication
that removes fears for good. See link below.
In many cases, the best approach to
dealing with a fear is to close your eyes and jump in. You face the fear
without any regard for your feelings and emotions. You might get nervous
or even terrified, but once you take the leap, you discover the walls
are merely shadows.
Confronting a fear can be tough, but the
reward is enormous. Confronting just a small part of a fear is an
Succeeding despite a fear means you have
done something you could not do before. And that is real success.
Click here for more information on
resolving fear, watch Dianetics: A
Visual Guidebook to the Mind.