| Your Biggest Source of
Trouble and Anxiety (Part Two)
In a study conducted by members of the
Los Angeles Police Department, they determined 2% of the population was
actually dangerous and harmful to society; that this minority was behind
most crime.
L. Ron Hubbard puts the percentage of
antisocials at 2.5% with another 17.5% of the population influenced so
heavily by the antisocial that they begin to act like antisocial
personalities. On a world-wide scale, some antisocials are like Stalin
or Hitler, the mafia or terrorists.
In your life, antisocials can be your
boss, your wife, your customers, your coworkers, your lawyer,
accountant, auto mechanic, employee, mother-in-law . . . anyone.
Recognizing the 20% who cause 80% of our
troubles is the first step to handling them.
Part One covered the first characteristic
of the antisocial personality: they speak in generalities. For example, "Everyone
thinks you are too inexperienced," "No one likes what
you said" or "America is terrified."
The second and third characteristics of
an antisocial person is based on the nature of their conversations.
Bad News
"2.
Such a person deals mainly in bad news, critical or hostile remarks . .
."
"It is notable that there is
no good news or complimentary remark passed on by such a person." —
L. Ron Hubbard
Someone has some good news and some bad
news. A rational or social personality tells you both pieces of news.
The antisocial personality passes only the bad news. Examples:
Social: "Mrs.
Jones, we received the results of your tests. Two are negative, which is
good news. The sample for the third test was lost at the lab. We’re
very sorry. The doctor would like to do it again if you could come in
today or tomorrow."
Antisocial: "Mrs.
Jones, we received the results of your tests and there’s a problem.
The doctor wants you to repeat one of the tests as soon as possible. I
have an opening next month."
Social: "While
she didn’t complete the project by noon like we wanted, she stayed up
all night and fixed some problems we didn’t know about. She’ll be
done by five tonight."
Antisocial: "We
knew she couldn’t complete the project like we wanted."
Social: "Boy,
I loved that chicken dish. The time you spent to prepare it was well
worth it!"
Antisocial: "So
this was your fancy chicken dish? You should try my mother’s. Now that’s
good chicken!"
Social Personality
You can use the opposite characteristic
to improve your personality.
"2. The social personality is
eager to relay good news and reluctant to relay bad.
"He may not even bother to pass
along criticism when it doesn’t matter."
"He is more interested in making
another feel liked or wanted than disliked by others and tends to err
toward reassurance rather than toward criticism." —
L. Ron Hubbard
Worsened or Invented Bad News
"3. The antisocial personality
alters, to worsen, communication when he or she relays a message or
news. Good news is stopped and only bad news, often embellished, is
passed along.
"Such a person also pretends to
pass on ‘bad news’ which is in actual fact invented."
— L. Ron Hubbard
Just passing on bad news is not enough
for antisocials. They prefer to make it sound worse. They will even make
up some bad news if the truth is not bad enough.
Neighborhood gossipers, politicians and
most news reporters are good examples.
"She seems to have a different man’s
car in front of her house every night."
"Unlike my political opponent, I
will not tolerate child pornography!"
"Many questions exist about his
sudden wealth."
Have you ever watched the nightly news
and felt nothing good was happening in the world? Do you ever feel
optimistic after reading the front page of a newspaper?
A few years ago, CBS reported,
"HUNDREDS FEARED DEAD IN FLOOD" when referring to a storm that
flooded parts of Northern California—two people died. CNN reported,
"THE TALIBAN SENDS 300,000 TROOPS TO BORDERS," when in turned
out to be fewer than 10,000.
In fact, you reduce your stress and feel
happier if you stop reading newspapers, stop watching the news and
ignore people who pass on bad news. Try it!
Antisocial personalities are horrible
relay points. They ruin reputations, create chaos and start fights.
For example, the boss tells an employee, "Doug,
please tell Pam she’s doing a great job and can leave early today, if
she’d like."
If Doug is an antisocial or acting like
an antisocial, he says, "Pam, the boss wants you to clock out
and go home right now. He seemed pretty unhappy."
So Pam says, "I
don’t understand . . . I guess I’d better leave."
Doug then comes and tells you, "Pam
is confused. She didn’t finish her work and just walked out when I
told her what you said. I think she’s on her period."
Unless you and Pam discover the truth
about Doug, your working relationship will suffer. The strain will cause
internal stress, a fight or worse.
On a broader scale, outsiders might pass
exaggerations and lies between two nations and thus start a war.
"The Southerners hate you. They say
you are evil. They plan to poison your water supply."
"The Northerners hate you. They say
you are evil. They plan to poison your water supply."
After several months of this, the South
and North start a war.
Marriages are also ruined by antisocial
lies and alterations.
Chris lies to the husband and says, "Don’t
tell your wife I said this, but she and Pete have been getting awfully
friendly."
Chris then lies to the wife,
"Don’t tell your husband I said this, but his daily hugs with
Sharon are getting pretty intimate."
Even though there is nothing going on,
the husband and wife suddenly suspect a problem and start fighting.
The Opposite Characteristic
"3. A social personality passes
communication without much alteration and if deleting anything tends to
delete injurious matters.
"He does not like to hurt people’s
feelings." — L. Ron
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